He didn’t finish his degree

Dear Meredith,

I met a guy at a recent event and we hit it off really well from the start. We found out that we had very similar musical tastes, views on the world, and hobbies, and that we are both very family-oriented. I find myself to be very attracted to him and always enjoy our time together. However, as we are both in our late 20s – and I, for one, take dating a little more seriously now – I am a little turned off by the fact that he never finished his college degree. Don't get me wrong, he works hard and has a great job right now. But, as someone who really values education, I'm having a hard time accepting the fact that he has no intentions of finishing school. Am I being too unrealistic?

– Master's Degree


I don't understand why the degree is so important. You say it's because you value education, but what does that mean?

Is it that you want to be able to say you're dating a college grad? Or do you fear that his professional life will be limited because he didn't finish? Your letter suggests that my first guess is right, which is why I must tell you that school isn't everything.

Maybe you should be turned on by the fact that this man found the real-world experiences he needed to get the right job. You should also know that education is not limited to school. Often, the best part of a resume is the stuff under "experience."

I can't tell you whether this is a deal-breaker for you, but I will suggest that it shouldn't be. The great things you mention in your first sentences seem to be more important than anything else. You're both where you want to be. Isn't that what matters most?

– Meredith

Readers? Will this be a problem later? Is it that she fears that he doesn't value her education?