In honor of the playoffs, I’m finally posting love advice from the Celtics. Big Baby was too busy to dispatch words of wisdom, but team legend Jo Jo White and Mr. Personality Dana Barros were happy to step in.
I gave the guys two classic love letters (the cheater and Creepy Staring Guy) — and one unpublished letter from a reader who is insecure about his height.
You’ll see the letters below with videos featuring Jo Jo and Dana. Feel free to leave comments about their advice … the men in green can take your criticisms.
You can read yesterday’s chat transcript here.
Love Letter 1:
Q: I have been married for over a year and love my husband with all my heart, always have and always will. About 4 months after our wedding I drank way too much wine and his best friend and I briefly hooked up. It has been eating me up inside ever since. I am now pregnant with our first baby and am wondering how I can move on mentally from this. Is letting time pass the only way to “forget”?
— Kate08, Boston
Love Letter 2:
Q: I am in a strange situation. I’m attracted to a girl who works in my office. She sits in the same area but works for a different team, so there is no chance of going out for lunch together because it would be awkward. I started to stare at her to show my interest. For last 3-4 weeks she has done the same thing. Now she stares at me 10 times more than I stare at her. I said ‘hello’ and talked to her on 3 separate occasions and she said hello and talked in a polite manner. The situation now is that she shows her interest (I believe) by staring at me on various occasions throughout the day. When our eyes meet she keeps looking for longer than usual but doesn’t smile. She looks a bit stressed for some reason (which I am sure is because of this situation between us). She is always attentive towards me and looks at me whenever changing her sitting position. The problem is, when we are in front of each other (example, in kitchen, etc) she acts strangely and looks at the floor and does not make eye contact with me, though I keep looking at her to talk. I am confused about what’s going on in her mind and what I should do. She doesn’t give me a smile, nor does she looks offended by something (may be she did not like me looking at her). Also once I talked to her in a usual manner she seemed a bit nervous to me. The next day when we saw each other in the office she did not say ‘hello’ and walked past me. I said ‘hello’ and then she gave a nervous smile and said ‘hello’ and then again started to look on the floor. She is not a shy girl and comes across very confidently with her colleagues (mainly male). Can you please tell me what is in her mind? Shall I ask her out???? If yes, then how and when?
— John, New York
Love Letter 3:
Q: I am a 5’5″, 38 yo male. I have wit, charm, intelligence, not obnoxious in any way (I think), but those general & subjective characteristics aside, fairly average + in looks & demeanor. It is my impression, going back a long way, that tall guys always get the girls. Women deny this when directly asked, but I have read empirical studies that paint a different story. In quieter moments, my women friends agree a taller guy is more attractive to them on an initial meet. Some women are bold enough to state their minimum height requirements as if they were buying a truck (“at least six feet tall”). Being likely a lot taller than average, I don’t imagine you’ve experienced the disadvantage of male shortness, but would you agree that height is distinct advantage? Have you ever seen it overcome without an overabundance of another quality (charm, money, flash, etc)?
— BrightonBob, Brighton