We'll do a short letter for the holiday. Good luck, runners.
I met him last summer via Tinder, and we grew extremely close over two months. Then we decided to get into a committed relationship. Best decision ever. However, he's leaving the country soon, and he's leaving the city I'm in even sooner. I can't move for at least a year.
He keeps saying that we'll try to make this work and that he'd love to build a cabin in Scandinavia with me if it becomes possible. We have a beautiful relationship. We're honest, we laugh and cry together, and we're there for each other. He's my safe haven. And now I'm scared. I've fallen for him completely. I don't know what the future holds, and I don't know where my life is headed. But I'd like it to be with him. What do I do?
See how it feels to live in different cities. If the two of you can make it work after the first move, maybe you'll have more hope for the second.
I know you want a guarantee that everything will be OK for the next year – some sort of promise that if you take a risk, you'll get your cabin in Scandinavia – but I can't predict the future. All I know is that he wants to try and so do you. The best way to get to that cabin is to listen to your gut, which is telling you to hold on, even though you're scared.
"I don't know where my life is headed. But I'd like it to be with him." Those are your words. Listen to them.