How do you get dates after college?

Hey Meredith,

I'm a 23-year-old man and have a question about "real world dating."

I broke up with my girlfriend after college. It took some time, but I've moved on from her.

Problem is, I have no idea how I'm supposed to meet women outside the school setting. I work in landscaping, so much of what I do involves only being around guys, and it just seems like everyone else in the world moves on from one relationship to the next with ease.

I think I'm a dateable person; there are certainly more attractive and charming gentlemen out there, but I believe I have things to offer. What am I doing wrong that I can't seem to meet new women (short of the bar/online scene)? Thanks and happy holidays!

– Single with No Clue How to Mingle


Listen, if you remove bars and the entire internet from the dating equation, it's going to be difficult to meet someone. It won't be impossible – people do meet in the real world – but it will be a much slower process.

You should think about why you've dismissed online dating, and possibly reconsider. Apps are a great way to find a lot of women at once. They're designed for people with jobs like yours; no matter where you are, you can connect to others with your phone.

Also, I wouldn't equate the experience of dating on apps to the bar scene. At a bar, there are no profiles, no statements about intentions. On apps, you get a lot of information up front.

As for meeting people in real life, I would tell friends – even those co-workers – that you're looking to date. Acquaintances aren't always great at thinking about set-ups, but it helps to have people keep you in mind.

– Meredith

Readers? Any other ideas? Or specific apps he should consider?