We have to skip chat today. But we're going to do it on Monday at 1 p.m. instead. I hope you can join us then.
Last fall, I moved from Massachusetts to be closer to my family, where the weather is beautiful and people are a lot happier and friendlier. I'm glad I am here. Before I left, I met a woman. We had a few dates and discovered we enjoy each other a lot. We decided we'd continue to communicate and see each other. We wrote stamped letters, she's come to visit a bunch and loves it here, and I've also been back up there.
She's awesome: hilarious, warm, creative, active, and thoughtful. I am certain she is the one and she feels the same way about me. All good, right? Well, yes, except for the thousand miles between us. The distance has been good, as it's allowed for growth and establishment of a good pace for the relationship. But now I’m at a point where it sucks that one of us has to get on a plane to get to the other. I'm tempted to move back there or change jobs so that I can work remotely and be able to spend more time with her. She also has the opportunity to work where I am, and is working on that as well.
We are not young – we were both born before the original "Star Wars." I am looking for guidance on this next installment.
OK, first of all, easy on the "people are a lot happier and friendlier where I am" thing. We Massachusetts people are working on our iciness. It's just that sometimes we're surrounded by actual ice.
As someone who was born a month after the release of the first "Star Wars" (or the fourth episode, if we're being specific), I will tell you that it sounds like it's time to do all of the things you mentioned. Work remotely and spend more time with this woman. Decide (together) whether it's easier for one of you to relocate. Clearly, you're thrilled about her and want to take a risk. Would it be so bad if you moved back to Boston and dedicated more vacation time to visiting your family in that happy, sunny place?
You don't seem to have much of a problem here, so I think letter is more about hearing that it's OK to undo your move – and to make big decisions about someone you've only been with long-distance. But you know the answer, right? You're all in and want to try. So go for it.
Readers? Any advice on this kind of move? Why do people always meet great partners right before a move?