Can it be more than one night of passion?
It's wedding season.
I am single and 21, and I slept with this guy at a wedding – and actually had a great time. It was so passionate (it felt that way to me, anyway). There was a lot of intimacy, lots of making out and eye locking.
Anyway, we woke up and I thought it was going to be weird, but he smiled and said good morning, and we spent the day together. When we drove around, he held my hand or kept his hand on my thigh. At the end of that day, I said goodbye and he gave me the biggest and tightest hug, kissed me passionately, and then asked for my number.
Later, he texted me "hey beautiful" and asked if I wanted to the ocean, but we weren't able to be free at the same time. We haven't been able to coordinate – he's had plans – but he's continued to text.
Also, I spotted a Facebook status of his that suggested he wasn't single ... but when I asked him about it, he said it was old, and he took it down.
Should I continue to try to see him? Does he actually like me?
– Waiting for the Ocean
"Does he actually like me?"
Sure. He probably likes you as much as you like him. You barely know him ... so you like him a little.
You're attracted to him, had a good time with him, and are hopeful about seeing him again. He seems to feel that way, too. At the very least, he likes having you as an option. He could have disappeared after that first night, but he asked for your number. That doesn't mean he wants you to be his life partner, but ... he might want to have some more fun with you, for sure.
My advice is to focus on his ability to make this second outing happen. That's the most important thing – the making of real plans in a reasonable amount of time. You can send texts forever, but they're meaningless if you don't meet up. This should not take weeks and weeks. Not if he's really single – and local.
If he's "monumentally busy," let this go. You've got other things to do, and it's better to have a great memory of a passionate night than to let the situation turn into a chase for nothing at all.
Readers? How long should it take for plans to happen? What about the Facebook status?
"If you don't make plans for a second date soon let it go. You will either become a booty call or you are a second girlfriend." – Nessa5381