I had a dream about an old friend

I just started dating this guy I work with. I always said I would never date a co-worker or someone younger. Well, he's both of those things (he's two years younger) and we have been dating for two months now.

He's a really great guy and I enjoy spending time with him. I also see a future with him. The thing is, a lot of people believe we are not a good fit for each other. The more I hear it, the more I start asking myself if I made the right decision.

One day out of the blue, I woke up to a dream I had about an old guy friend I had back in high school. We'd been close since middle school, but he ended up moving away my sophomore year. In my dream I remember seeing him at some sort of event and running up to him and hugging him and asking how he was. What got me super confused was when (in the dream) he asked, "Are you dating anyone?" I responded: "Depends who's asking." I also remember my own boyfriend being at that same event in the dream, and hoping he wouldn't hear me. Then this old friend asked me for a kiss, and that's when I immediately woke up stunned. I can't believe I dreamed about kissing another guy; what does this mean? I haven't talked to this old friend in ages, and even though he's really attractive, I wouldn't want to ruin what I have now. Does this dream mean anything or is it trying to tell me something?

– Dreams


I'm sorry you woke up before your dream kiss. That is very frustrating.

I had a dream the other night about a famous actor, and there was making out (and more!), and when I finally woke up I remember thinking how rare it was. There's something about that we're-about-to-kiss moment that usually works as an internal alarm clock. I don't know why.

I tell you this because my dream – which was very exciting – was also very meaningless. It could have been inspired by something I saw on my phone before bed, or maybe I was thinking about various Avengers right before I closed my eyes. I have no idea. But I know it was just a dream. Yours was the same.

The question you have to ask yourself is whether you want it to mean something. If you're taking it as a sign, it's because you want to interpret it that way. Think about why.

You should know, though, that it's OK to feel unsure about this relationship without doing anything about it. You say you wonder if you made the "right decision" by coupling up with this man, but ... what decision have you really made? You've only been with him for two months. You have not promised eternity. You're gathering information, seeing how it progresses. You're not supposed to have all the answers eight weeks in. Tell your friends the same thing.

– Meredith

Readers? How much do we care about dreams?