Is he ignoring me because he likes me?

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Hi Meredith,

I went on a date with an average guy, nothing special to be honest. He was very nice, we chatted, and we got to know a bit about each other. He hugged me multiple times, but there wasn't much after that. We live far away from each other so I haven't seen him since then, but I think my feelings for him are growing more and more.

We talk to each other on social media occasionally, but he doesn't ever text me first and he always replies in short responses. As a woman, I wish he would text me more because I love talking to him. He hasn't texted me in a month now because I haven't texted him first.

Is this a guy's way of saying that he likes me (by ignoring me) or is he just uninterested?

– Confused

"Nothing special to be honest ... "

Hmm. What made him special all of a sudden? How did he evolve into a more interesting person by doing basically nothing?

You made him special. That's what happened.

During all of this quiet time, you've created some lovely man in your brain. Points for creativity, but it's fiction. He hasn't talked to you in a month.

Try to delete all of the stories you’ve told yourself about who he might be, and instead, point to what's real. You and this man had a basic date, after which he hugged you a bunch. Then he went away, failed to initiate more, and only responded when you reached out first. He hasn't asked to see you. Also, he's far away.

When someone likes you, they make an effort. You're trying to do twice as much to keep this going, but it's too much work – and he hasn't earned this kind of attention.

Assume this is disinterest and look for something new. If you can't let it go, ask him what he wants. Be direct.

– Meredith

Readers, would you ever show interest by ignoring someone?