A holiday update
Just one update from a summer letter writer who was trying to figure out sparks.
This person could use a breakup pep talk, and a reminder about what spark really is – or isn’t.
This is an update on the sparks letter in May. The guy and I later reconnected. We became a couple and dated for a few months. I wanted to plan a trip to see my family in another state – an aunt and uncle for a birthday celebration. I paid for the plane tickets, and I thought we were fine.
Two days before the trip, he broke up with me. It wasn't clear the reasons. I tried to get my money back for the plane tickets, I couldn't get a refund. Due to not getting the refund, I couldn't go to the trip. The plan was, he was going to get a hotel and pay for the food. He canceled the hotel before we broke up in order to get a refund.
I am sad over the breakup. I feel bad for letting my family down. Do you have any advice on how to deal with this breakup? I miss him.
My thought – this wasn't about sparks, just about complicated travel plans and bad timing. There's a lesson here about continuing to date – and about getting refundable tickets.
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Speaking of Love
"I love you, in a really, really big pretend-to-like-your-taste-in-music, let-you-eat-the-last-piece-of-cheesecake, hold-a-radio-over-my-head-outside-your-window, unfortunate way that makes me hate you, love you." — Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy