"... the idea of throwing away this amazing relationship to pursue something I can't even name is really hard."

Hi Meredith, I am a 22-year-old recent college graduate who has moved back to Boston with family. I am working temp office positions while searching for my "dream job." I am also in a weird place relationship-wise. After getting out…

Hi there, My now-ex partner and I had been together for two and a half years and lived together for a little less than two. Things were great; we had such deep connection, and – being in our mid-20s –…

Hi Meredith!   Dating has not been going my way for some time now. I'm a gay man in my 20s living in Seattle. I'm a full-time PhD student attempting to balance dating with other aspects of my life like…

Dear Meredith/Love Letters, I'm writing to you from "down under" (Australia). I'd like to thank you for your podcast and writing. My query is this: my partnership of five years came to an end in January of this year. He's…

I'm still in the "new" relationship, but it has now become purely platonic, against the new partner's wishes.

I'm 23 years old, and this is going to sound so utterly foolish because so many years have gone by. My first relationship was long-distance. I was 15/16 and my ex was 20. He didn't tell me his age at…

Met "TH" in college. We connected, sparks, etc. But as he puts it, "She was too shy and I was too high." Over the years we would reconnect periodically, but it never got serious. New Year's 2011, I was set…

Dear Meredith and Esteemed Commenters, I am a 27-year-old man. I am currently dating (but not really dating) two women. The first woman is 42. She is extremely attractive. She is married, though. Her husband travels for work about half…

Now it's five months later, and I love her.

Hello! I am a 29-year-old woman and have been single for many years. In my last relationship, I threw myself into his life and pushed aside things that were important to me. I didn't see it then, but he didn't…

My mate of 10 years and I have been through a lot. He's been hospitalized for an accident that left him disabled (unable to work) from a stroke and brain injury, so now he's home with me all the time…

Dear Meredith, Yesterday I broke up with the guy I was seeing for the past two and a half months. We are both in our 40s. I have two children I share part-time with my ex. The guy I was…

In my mind, he was my forever person and I saw our struggles as a bump in the road, but instead he'd started to question things.

My husband and I have been married for almost 40 years. We've had our ups and downs, but have stuck it out because we love each other(?). I have a master's in nursing, worked two to three jobs while he…

Dear Love Letters, My girlfriend and I met during COVID while living abroad, and like all stereotypical queers, we U-Hauled a little bit. What followed was seven months of idyllic life in every respect. We both fell deeply in love.…

I’m a 28-year-old man. Growing up, I was always a late bloomer when it came to dating and relationships. No successful relationships in high school, but definitely a lot of crushes. Didn't even have my first kiss until college. When…

She expects me to be there.

I find myself in an odd spot.

I really like this guy at my work. He only comes in once a week and works with our residents at a rehabilitation and nursing home as a licensed clinical social worker. He has positions at a few other places…

I’m a male (30s) who's never been in a relationship and has tried, unsuccessfully, to online date for almost seven years. Most of my dates end with a genuine "let's hang out again as friends." I've made several incredibly close…

Can someone explain our brains and how we just know things – and why we sometimes ignore what we know? I had a gut feeling that my boyfriend of 10 years was cheating. We would constantly fight about it, and…

My marriage is an empty shell, but I can't let go. My spouse and I have been together for 15 years, married for nine, we have three wonderful children, and good, engaging careers. The first years of our relationship and…

I'd like to find a way to move past a relationship of almost nine years. Despite moving across the country to move on, I can't stop interacting with him. I was 31 when we started dating, and now that I'm…

For me, it would mean being in a relationship for the first time.