I'm scared to pursue it because I could fall in love or maybe hurt her

It's as if I'm not over it. How do you move on from a breakup when you're still in the relationship?

I was really into her. I just didn't have the ability to show it yet.

Dear Meredith, I had just transferred colleges and was at orientation. "Jason" was on a sports team so he moved in early as well. I was invited to a party through a mutual friend, he and I met, hit it…

Hi Meredith, I've been out of a relationship for about a month now. My ex broke up with me over vague incompatibilities. Every since, I've been asking myself this question: What should I be looking to get out of a…

I buried my head in the sand to this reality and avoided talking about it ...

Dear Meredith, It all started last summer when I moved in with my current best friend and her friend "Mike." I bet you can guess where this story is going. A recent theme in your letters has been "when you…

I thought I was out of the woods...until I learned last week that these two had gotten married last weekend.

She said that I'm the only person she can see herself with, but that's because I'm all she's ever known.

I started dating a guy I've known through work. He's a very nice, solid guy – a great catch. I could tell that he went out of his way to get to know me. We started dating, but then he…

... all this reading has led to me believe that we struggled due to our own lack of skills and tools.

He seemed to always leave the phone unlocked but cleared all texts and internet history, which was obviously strange.

It broke me, and with him being out of arm's reach, the loss was even harder for the both of us and our relationship.

Dear Meredith, I am 31 and I recently found myself in a "relationship" with a man who is 25. We met at work. Our interaction in the office is minimal, but we see each other daily. We instantly hit it…

We had talked several times about kids, and the future and what we wanted. We clicked on every level.

I've been through serious break ups before, but that was when both parties could see it had ended for good.

I think that after months of feeling nothing after I broke up with him, my heartbreak is just starting to kick in.

After 13 months together, I wonder if I ever felt it with him.

I should just walk away from this. The problem is, I will almost certainly see her again in person soon.

I know this is a RISKY move. Do I stop it while I can?

But what if I date around and feel like nobody compares to him?

I don't understand any of it. I truly don't know what happened or where things went wrong.

But the reality is he was having sex with her and spending time with her and his family.

It felt like I'd been dragged around, taken advantage of, and used as a backup plan, even though he insisted he "really valued me."

Every time I stopped talking to her to try to move past our relationship, she sent me a text saying she loved me and still wanted a future together.