She initially said yes after the beach proposal, but then had a panic attack when we went back to our rental and she saw the decorations that our friends put up.

There is a topic I have long wanted to see you address: why do women today wait for men to be the one to propose marriage?

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We're in our mid-30s and have been living together for almost a year. He's a great guy, and it's the best relationship I've ever had. He's smart, fun, caring, we…

He has said he wants to spend his life with me, and I guess I don't understand the line between that and marriage.

Should I ride it out? I love him so deeply, but what if I am not his one? What if he's never ready?

He knew my feelings about this but said he would never get engaged to someone he hadn't lived with first.

Marriage will not be easy, and I feel like he wants things to be perfect before he pops the question.

I would really like to get engaged, but I believe he thinks its too soon.

Even if we are equals in this relationship, would I be stepping on his toes?